Self-Awareness Is A Great Place To Start

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“Knowing others is wisdom; knowing yourself is enlightenment.”

~Lao Tzu

Make no mistake, we are all magnificent beings. We may not be able to understand the vast orchestration of the universe, but we can sure appreciate and marvel at all it’s magnificence. We are a part of this magnificent whole. It is good to remind ourselves from time to time that we are worth marveling over too. However, this is not the time.

As our time on this mega rock of a planet begins to tally up, we also acquire some attributes along the way that do not serve us, or the people who matter most in our lives.

I am very well aware I’ve acquired more than a handful of negative attributes along the way. Seems like the older we get, the more we become aware of them, too. Probably because these attributes have wreaked havoc on our lives time and time again.

For instance, I can be a big time procrastinator. When I was a young boy, I would put things off until I couldn’t anymore. Things like cleaning my room and doing homework were usually at the top that list. This transpired into waiting until the last minute to finish school projects, turning in college papers and paying bills late.  Now there are some upsides to procrastination, but I will save that for another time.

I can also say that I’ve never been good with my finances.  I make money and I like to spend it on my family. That’s the truth.  Certainly grateful these days I have a partner who realizes my shortcomings, and is willing to help me manage my finances, so I don’t have to stress every month.  This allows me to go hard on the things that do make me tick.

Now I suppose I could be proud like most of us can be and say shit like, “No, I don’t have a problem.” I suppose I could continue on the same path I’ve been on, but who the heck does that help? It doesn’t help me and certainly doesn’t help my tribe.

So, what am I getting at here?

I’m talking  about self awareness my friends. Self-awareness is important in life, but even more important if you are trying to achieve a goal, a dream, or make some big life change.  No matter where we go, there we are.

If there are things that you do that you know hold you back, what are you going to do about it? Keep shoving those things under the rug?  I promise you, eventually you will trip over the rug. I know I have–too many times.

You have to be super real with yourself. Should be easy, right? Yet, so many of us struggle with this. Probably because it means we have to admit we are not perfect.  Surprise, you’re not! You’re magnificent as I mentioned in my opening paragraph, but you’re not perfect.  And guess what?  That’s ok.

I’m not saying you have to devote countless hours to fixing your shortcomings.  To be honest, I enjoy doing the things I know I’m good at and much rather focus on those attributes. But there comes a time we have to pay attention to what’s holding us back, and at least try to pick the weed. Self-awareness allows us to do this.

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Here’s a crazy concept, ask for help. People like helping other people, believe it or not.  It gives them a sense of purpose and industry. There’s research that supports that we are born with an innate sense to help others.  So why not take advantage?

Hit up a friend, a mentor, or a life coach. You want to pick someone you can trust, and know will have your best interest at heart, as well as hold you accountable. And just take the first step and say this out loud, or in your head:

“I suck at this and I don’t want to suck at this anymore!” 

This should lead to a question like, “What can I do to change?” After that, take action; big or small,  doesn’t matter, just take action.

Albert Einstein once said, “Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.” I never fully understood that until recently.  To go beyond them, however, we have to want to go beyond them.

Do you want to go beyond your limits? Well, self-awareness is a great place to start.

Positively yours,


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